Valentines Day

While single, Valentines Day was always a joy for me.  Why?; Because I got to choose and whom to send chocolates to and where to go. 

Then I got married, and, it was difficult.  Giving the chocolates most of the time, and not receiving was problematic, because, it was expected.  I had more fun being single with no expectation. 

Well, AND THEN CAME DIVORCE.  An interesting concept, because, the last two years I returned to my routine.  However, something new came about, my kids.  They got things for me in the absence of that significant other.  I had more fun these past few years with Valentine, since DIVORCE, then while I was married.  And yes, I am still single, and it is coming up on four years of divorce. 

Lastly, I remember a group leader and someone whom I know consider as a great friend.  He led others for years since his divorce, about 20 something years ago, and helped those get through that difficult time, but, he remained single, as he believed God led him to be and remain.  About a year and a half ago, he went into seminary because he wanted to help others on a higher level.

His divorce was filled with regret at times because he felt like through it all he could not engage his children in having a total ministry mind and he could not protect them all the time, during the divorce [by he raised them well and they are doing well, just not involved in the church]. 

I think and just say being single is not a curse and can be the greatest blessing ever.  Everything and event can and only be measured by how you respond, in a Christ like manner, and, as many say, turning those Lemons in Lemonade. 

God Bless and Happy Valentines Day.  If all else fails, it is a pagan holiday anyway. LOL J

This year, my dear friend of old, Liz, promised to bring a the biggest snickers bar, when she comes from NY on the 15^th [BFFs since 1990, even through marriage and divorce].